A Psychic Perceptions On Love and Relationships

My guides are urging me to write this blog because so many humans are looking for love.  They think that if they could just find their soul mate their life would be perfect. My guides message is do not search for love – “BE LOVE”.

So it is time to open up your heart chakra and let the love out. Of course you need to be smart about it. I am not talking about calling an ex that ended badly and trying to make it right. Leave that in the past and say a prayer for them.  There are those who are dangerous to show your love, for example an abusive, mentally unstable family member or friend.  Instead visualize love energy being sent to them, pink or green are good colors to use.

Here are some things you can do to “BE LOVE”:

·         Smile at everyone

·         React with compassion instead of anger

·         Open a door for someone

·         Listen without giving advice

·         Run an errand for someone

·         Cook a meal for someone

·         Volunteer

·         Do random acts of kindness everyday   

·         Be positive

·         Be fun to be around

·         Accept people exactly the way they are

·         Love everyone even if you do not like them

I realize some of the above is not always easy to do. Just do your best. When you “Be Love” you become a magnet for other peoples love and it opens the door for your soul mate to come in.  I hear the Beatles song lyric “and in the end, the love that you take is equal to the love you make.”  So start the love mission.

 

One of the recurring issues I hear from my clients is why does it take so long for their soul mate to come into their lives -  we are friends when is it going to turn romantic, are we going to become an item, and when are we getting  married? My guides tell my clients over and over the dreaded word “PATIENCE”.  Believe me, I have had psychics or my Angels tell me the same thing. I even had a dream where a bunch of fireman was singing Diana Ross song “You Can’t Hurry Love”; I was living across the Wharton Fire Department at the time.  I know how frustrating patience can be.

We live in a world of instant:  instant food, microwave food, fast internet, so we expect instant love. Instant love is 9 times out of ten lusts that burns out quickly.  I had one young woman ask when she was going to meet her soul mate and start a family.  The information I received was that there was a very handsome, kind and family oriented man coming for her and two to three children, maybe even twins. Right now it is time to focus on school and career because she would need that to help support the family. My guides also teased that she needs to enjoy her free time because before she knew it she would not have any with her new family.

Recently another female client asked me when she and the guy she was dating would become an item. I got an interesting vision of a house being built where the foundation was laid and the wood studs were up. I interpreted that to mean that was the state of her relationship at the time and that it would continue to grow and build. Of course the horrible “P” word came up. I encouraged her to enjoy the courtship (a lost art form these days) and to focus on her own life.

Another client, who I will call Ann, asked me about her relationship. My Angels told me that although Ann and her boyfriend love each other, they have communication issues and a lot of misunderstandings that cause major problems. Ann needed to read some books on man and woman communication skill and to practice this with her mate. When she starts to improve her communication and listening skills, she will understand her mate’s communication and their relationship will than improve. Ann was not thrilled with that information and asks me “when am I going to get my ring.” This is the time I get to work on my patience and tolerance skills, I responded to work on the communication first and see how that goes before thinking of marriage.

So let’s put away our microwaves when it comes to romantic love. The old saying “patience is a virtue” is so true when it comes to love, but it is also a necessity.  May you always be patient.

 

 

In my last blog I wrote about keeping the focus on you, which is not always easy in a society that rewards putting other’s needs before ours. There is nothing wrong with serving others or taking care of others, the problem occurs when it is hurting you. The following are tips on how to keep the focus on you:

v  If you are tempted to keep calling or texting your love interest or mate, ask or pray to God, the Angels, a higher power to help you focus on yourself in a self caring way.

v  Make a list of things you enjoying doing, especially those you have put on the back burner, and start doing them. In other words, take that dance class, read the book, try out for the play, start writing the novel, volunteer, cook from scratch, etc.

v  Pamper yourself:  get a massage, haircut, pedicure, or psychic reading, go out for a nice meal, go away for the weekend or even better go to Europe.

v  Move your body with exercise, yoga or a walk.

v  Meditate, take a nap or bath.

v  Clean out your cabinets, closets, and dresser draws and donate the unwanted items.

v   Watch a funny or inspirational movie.

As I look over the list, I feel these are things we as human beings should do for ourselves even when we aren’t focusing on our love interest or mate. Who wouldn’t want to go to Europe?!

In my last blog I wrote about keeping the focus on you, which is not always easy in a society that rewards putting other’s needs before ours. There is nothing wrong with serving others or taking care of others, the problem occurs when it is hurting you. The following are tips on how to keep the focus on you:

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>If you are tempted to keep calling or texting your love interest or mate, ask or pray to God, the Angels, a higher power to help you focus on yourself in a self caring way.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>Make a list of things you enjoying doing, especially those you have put on the back burner, and start doing them. In other words, take that dance class, read the book, try out for the play, start writing the novel, volunteer, cook from scratch, etc.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>Pamper yourself:  get a massage, haircut, pedicure, or psychic reading, go out for a nice meal, go away for the weekend or even better go to Europe.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>Move your body with exercise, yoga or a walk.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>Meditate, take a nap or bath.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–>Clean out your cabinets, closets, and dresser draws and donate the unwanted items.

<!–[if !supportLists]–>v  <!–[endif]–> Watch a funny or inspirational movie.

As I look over the list, I feel these are things we as human beings should do for ourselves even when we aren’t focusing on our love interest or mate. Who wouldn’t want to go to Europe?!

A message that my Angels and guides give over and over in my client’s readings is that they need to focus on themselves first and then the relationship. I understand that this is not an easy thing to do in our society. We are conditioned to serve others and taking care of ourselves is considered selfish. It is not selfish to take care of ourselves; in fact it is called self care. I am sure everyone has heard that when a plane is going down, if you have an infant on your lap you are instructed to give yourself the oxygen first and then the infant.  Now imagine what would happen if we disregarded that because self care is selfish; you would be giving the infant oxygen first, pass out from lack of oxygen, your hand would let go of the mask, and you and the infant would die.  Sounds silly, but people do this all the time in their relationships.

Because I am an energy reader and healer I understand how energy works, but the average person understands it on a subconscious level.  Take the example of a woman who is insecure and wants to find a man to make her life. When that woman walks into a singles event the majority of the men’s subconscious energy antennas warn “oh no, needy, clingy woman, get away.”  The men that will be attracted to her most likely want to rescue her or be catered to.

When we are in a committed relationship it gets even more complicated because we get enmeshed with each other.  This can start a push, pull energy in the relationship.  When one person focuses too much on their mate, their mate will automatically pull away.  Once they put the focus back on themselves their mate senses the energy shift and returns back in the relationship. I see this happening time and time again.

I recently recommended a short but powerful fiction book to a client called “God on a Harley” by Joan Brady. In one part the main character kept thinking about God, was wondering where he was and was waiting for him to call her or come to her apartment. In other words she was putting her own life on hold. After a while she got disgusted, went out and enjoyed herself. When she got home God was waiting for her.  In other words she let go and let God.

In my next blog I will give some tips on how to focus on you.

In my last blog I talked about being your authentic self, so for this blog I would like to talk about your love interest being their real selves.  When a person meets a potential mate they have to take their date’s words as true, unless it is so far out there that it couldn’t possibly be true.  Some dates may show off or embellish the truth in order to impress you. Even when you meet through friends it takes time to get to know someone. Pay attention to your gut feelings, don’t rush - instead allow the relationship to progress at a slower pace, and see if their words are followed by their actions.

I wish I had taken that advice about seventeen years ago when I had meet Albert (not his real name). It had been a few years since I had any type of decent connection with a man and I was so excited to finally meet someone.  I got caught up in the fancy dinners, plays, the gifts, and even went to Atlanta, GA with him.  I was so focused on the good things and my own feelings about him, that I didn’t pay attention to other aspect of the relationship. Yes, even psychics can wear the rose colored, love glasses. It was in Atlanta that the glasses came off and I started to see the truth about the relationship.  When we broke up he mentioned how nobody is ever their true self in the beginning of a relationship.  I disagree with him because I had done my best to be my true self. When I reflected back on the relationship, I realized that if I had slowed down instead of gone off into “La La Land,”, that I would have know that I really did not like Albert as a person.

In a long term relationship it is important to be who you are in order to have a healthy relationship so that your significant other will be comfortable enough to do the same. Do not judge and put them down when they are being their authentic self.  It is normal for everyone to have secrets, the following example illustrates this.  A client of mine I’ll call Glen has been with his gay lover for 19 years; he called me for one issue that had been bothering him.  He knew that his boyfriend had been looking at internet porn sites and masturbating to them. When Glen confronted him about it, the boyfriend denied it. The information my guides gave me was that his boyfriend had “Catholic Guilt” about masturbating and could not bring himself to admit it. They had a really great relationship filled with so much love that this issue was not worth breaking up over. I also got that Glen should be loving and accepting so that his significant other would finally admit the truth.

In conclusion listen to your gut whether or not your date or mate is being their honest self.  Look for the red flags but do not make mountains out of mole hills. If you feel very confused or stuck in doubt that they are being real, get help from me, another psychic or even a private detective.

As young children we learn very quickly that there are many times we will be criticized and disciplined when we express our authentic self.  Children quickly learn not to reveal so much because of their desire to be loved and accepted.  As they grow older they learn to wear mask with most people and really appreciate when they can be their true self. The reality is there are people who it is unsafe to be your real self.  The problem occurs when we are not ourselves in a relationship.

 When a couple starts dating it is perfectly appropriate to hold back and not reveal a lot. In fact, no one wants to hear your whole tragic life history on the first, second, third, or even 10^th date.  The journey of getting to know each other is what makes courtship so much fun. However, when my client, Jill met Jacob (not their real names), she told him that she was younger.  He believed her because she looked so young.  They have become an item, now she lives in fear that if he finds out her real age he is going to be really angry and leave her.   My guides advised her that she tell him the truth. She justified her “little white” that if he knew her age in the beginning he probably wouldn’t have dated her because he always went for younger women.  I intuitively knew that he would have made an exception, but when he finds out her real age he will wonder what else she lied about.

I could write a book about how many clients are not their selves in a relationship.  They push their dreams, desires, and goals aside in order to keep their mates with them.  The cost is high because they lose who they are and may become resentful of their mates.  Or they keep secrets about what is going on in their lives and may not be truthful about how they spend their free time. This is a great way to avoid getting close and moving the relationships forward.  Many people keep their feelings locked inside because they fear being judged or criticized by their partner.  If the above is true, take a good look at the relationship, work on communication skills, or decide if it is worth staying in the relationship.

I would like to end by encouraging everyone to be their real selves in their love relationship.  You deserve being loved for who you are. Just remember to accept and love your mate for who they are.